When we come to God and are walking with Him, there is a time of grace in our lives, as God starts to show us how to live in His ways. Sometimes we walk in our Christian lives, for a while, before God begins to show us things that He wants to change. Whether we are new believers, or more seasoned, God will give us His wisdom, and show us ways that we can live more effective lives. We can not base our self-worth on how the people in our lives have treated us. Our enemy, Satan has told us many lies. He causes people to say and do hurtful things, in order to destroy us. We face disappointments, rejection, and unfair situations. God says to us, “I have mercy for every mistake, listen to me. You are accepted, approved, and redeemed. I want you to feel confident and secure in my love.” We need to base our self-worth on what God says to us.
What does God say about us? We are His Masterpiece.
- “For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for Him to do.” Ephesians 2:10
- “So don’t throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded. You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what He has promised.” Hebrews 10:35-36
We can make choices that are based on the Word of God. This is how to get to the root of life-controlling problems, and bring wholeness and healing to our spirit, soul and body.
There are 7 Choices that Bring Change
- Committment to Christ
- Choosing to Forgive
- Renewing our Minds
- Not Living under Generational Patterns
- Being Healed of Life’s Hurts
- Freedom From Oppression
- Living by Principles of Lifelong Success
Committment to Christ means walking daily with God It is through our relationship with God that healing and freedom come. The most important choice in our lives, is our salvation, when we believe in Jesus. We talk with Him daily. I once heard a friend say that after he gets home from work, he pulls a chair aside and thinks of Jesus sitting there. He really talks to Him, because Jesus has become his dearest friend. Have you noticed how people will talk about the people and things they really love. If God is not present in your conversations, take time to think about what you are loving. Loving God is the key to success. This includes times of prayer, confession, repentance, and making Jesus the focus of or lives.
When Choosing to Forgive, we need to remember–we ask for God to forgive us from our sins, and we receive His forgiveness. But we must also forgive others, for the wrongs they have committed against us. This is an important part of what Jesus taught. In the Lord’s prayer, Jesus says…”forgive us our debts (or trespasses), as we forgive our debtors (or trespassers).” Some things that happen to us are very difficult, and not easy to forgive. There are many abuses which have taken place, in our lives. When we forgive another person, it releases us from any tie to that person. It allows us to be free. We are trusting God to deal with each person for the things that they have done. We know that His judgements now, and at His judgement seat in heaven, will be just. We release our emotions, our memories, and the very things that hold us in bondage. We turn them over to our Savior. He does a miraculous work in our hearts when we do this. Those things can no longer have an effect on us. We are not saying that all of those past hurts were alright, but we are saying, “Jesus, I give it all to you, I trust you, cleanse my heart, mind and body. Free me by your power!” Matthew 16:19 says, ” I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven; whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will beloosed in heaven.”
Forgiveness does not mean that we are to trust the offender, or be in a relationship, with those people who have hurt us. Satan is not a fair adversary. He attacks us when we are weak, young, or defenseless. Sometimes we hold onto our anger and hurt toward our offenders. Other times we direct our anger inward, toward ourselves, due to our shame. At times, we blame God. Forgiveness is not only an emotional choice. We can choose to forgive ourselves, others, and God. Even when our feelings are not in line with our choice, we can ask God to make our feelings right. When we pray about difficult events that have happened to us, we may need to pray for a period of time, until our hearts are right. Sometimes forgiveness takes place immediately, and sometimes forgiveness is a process. We should pray, until the things from the past, no longer have a hold over us. Forgiveness is God’s way for us to live our lives. “…If you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.” Mark 11:25.
PRAYER OF FORGIVENESS
Dear Heavenly Father, I consciously choose in my heart, to forgive ________(this person), for ________(these specific memories of what they did). I release them and I cancel their debts to me. I bind every Spirit that is not the Holy Spirit, over me and these memories, because it is forgiven and covered with the blood of the Lamb. In the name of Jesus I command any pain, anger, guilt, shame, resentment, and bitterness to go. I command my body, mind, heart and spirit, to be healed from the effects of these events. I ask you Lord, to heal me from negative emotions, and to replace them with the right feelings. Holy Spirit come and do your work, heal me in every area…in Jesus name I pray – Amen!
The Renewing of our Minds comes, when we go to the Word of God and seek His truth. His Word washes our minds, and helps us to live righteous lives. Psalm 119:11 says, “I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.” Romans 12:2 says, “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—His good, pleasing and perfect will.” When we refuse to believe the lies that Satan tells us, and instead we choose to believe God’s Word–we begin to live in victory!
Not Living Under Generational Patterns, means not living with issues, that have effected our family members in the past. Generational patterns such as unforgiveness, alcoholism, sexual sins, divorce, anger, abuse, abandonment, fears, etc. The Bible tells us, “…I have set before you blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children will live and that you may love the Lord your God, listen to His voice and hold fast to him…” Deuteronomy 31:19-20. We may not become aware of some of these things, until we have walked with God for a time. He is faithful to show us these things, as we are ready for Him, to help us change them.
Healing Life’s Hurts is God’s specialty. There are wounds that have been suppressed and hidden throughout our lives. These hurts affect our relationships with God and others. It is important to keep our hearts and minds open to God, and allow Him to heal us. Jesus spent His ministry healing people in all kinds of situations. He healed them physically, and spiritually. He forgave them, and told them to sin no more. He brought them deliverance, and godly love. Healing was a huge part, of who Jesus was, when He walked among us on earth. In Matthew 4:23 we are told, ” Jesus went throughout Galilee, teaching in their synagogues, preaching the good news of the kingdom, and healing every disease and sickness among the people.” He is still healing us today, and that is because, of His great love for us!
Freedom From Oppression means that God wants us to come to Him, and He will set us free. We do not have to live in bondage to sin, or continue to be attacked by Satan. Christians can be oppressed by demonic influences, when we open the door through areas of sin. We have been given the power and authority to be free. We need to stand on our authority in Jesus. Be repentant for sinful behavior, and close the door to oppression. In Luke 10:19, as Jesus sends his disciples out into the world, He says,”I have given you authority to trample on snakes and scorpions and to overcome all power of the enemy; nothing will harm you.”
There are some Principles of Life Long Success that we can live by. Know the 10 Commandments and obey them. I have them posted at my front door, along with the scripture from Joshua 24:15 which says, “As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” I am saying to everyone who walks into my home, this is what we live by.
The 10 Commandments
I You shall have not have any other Gods before me.
II You shall not make any graven image
III You shall not take the name of the Lord your God in vain
IV Remember the Sabbath Day to keep it holy
V Honor you father and mother and your days on earth will be long
VI You shall not kill
VII You shall not commit adultery
VIII You shall not steal
IX You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor
X You shall not covet
Or if you want to put it in a nutshell, Jesus said, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets.'” Matthew 22:37-40.
USE THE TOOLS THAT GOD GIVES US
- Love God
- Obey Him–“…to obey is better than sacrifice…” 1 Samuel 15:22
- Go to Church–whether it is your family church meeting weekly, a small fellowship, or a large church–and keep the Sabbath holy
- Stay in Fellowship with Believers–God uses them in your life to speak to you, and to walk with you
- Pray Everyday–and throughout the day–talk to God, fellowship with Him, and build your relationship with Him
- Read the Word of God–daily if you can–when it is hard to get it in, then read 1 Proverb, or 1 Psalm a day
- Be Open to the Holy Spirit working in your life
- Have Healthy Boundaries in relationships
- Take These Godly Weapons with you Daily: Truth, Righteousness, the Gospel, Faith, your Salvation, and the Word of God–Ephesians 6:10-20
It has been my observation that loving God is key, to making choices that bring change. It is with His help that we become more committed to Him. He renews our minds everyday. He helps us to forgive, heals us, and gives us power to break through strongholds. Like a loving Father, He guides our way. He loved us and laid down His life for us. Our salvation, cost Jesus everything.Who else can love like He can. No one else can wash away our sins. That is why, when He gives us direction, we owe it to Him, to love Him, and obey.
References: Mercy Ministries, I Reworded a Forgiveness Prayer from Kerrie Bradshaw @ Bear Witness Ministries